How are you man? I’m hoping the advice you give will help me make the proper decision when it comes to my niece. My brother, unfortunately, is a dead beat dad. My niece is now three and she has seen him a total of four times. Her mother and I get along pretty well and she has been asking me to spend more time with her, but I am a little hesitant. First, I think her mother is sweet on me, and second, I don’t want to overstep my bounds and be playing daddy to my niece. At the end of the day my brother’s her father. What should I do? I don’t wanna let my niece down, or upset my brother.
***Pluto, Man up! Your niece needs you! From your own admission, you have told me your brother is a dead beat dad. What is the harm in being a super uncle to combat some of the negativity her father’s absence can cause in her life? Let her mother know you are not interested in anything romantic with her and move forward. Call me “the modern uncle,” but I believe it is the role of aunts and uncles to provide supplementary care and balance in the lives of their nieces and nephews. I have taken a similar outlook in the relationship I have with my own nieces and nephews by becoming what they need me to be. Where your brother is lacking or failing you must rise to the occasion. Having a strong male/father figure in her life can prevent her from having sex too early, teen pregnancy, etc. I am sure if this situation were reversed you would want him to step up for your child. I’m counting you to do the right thing…she is too…
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