People, and maybe even you, are going to think I’m grimy; but the heart wants what it wants. I’ve been seeing my ex-boyfriend’s best friend for the last three months. Now he and I are ready to be official and go public with our relationship. I know coming out won’t be easy because he and my ex are very close–like brothers actually. Their families are even close too. In fact their mothers are best friends. I know this is going to cause a calamity, but I want to us to tell my ex first that we are together. My new boo and I are trying to decide how and when to tell him; and if one or both of us should tell him. I want to make this as painless as possible. Any advice or guidance?
-Absured & Unsure
***Absured & Unsure, your pen name should “Trouble” in all caps! You’re right this is going to be a whole train of ugly, with a caboose of betrayal and heartache.This can potentially disrupt the harmony of multiple people and devastate friendships and relationships alike. I’m sure you have asked yourself repeatedly is it really worth it, but take the time to truly assess all the consequences at play. Honestly, there is no right way or time to tell him this type of news. You two need to have he balls (figuratively and literally) to tell him TOGETHER since you want to be together! Don’t be surprised if karma becomes too real and you both end up with multiple people saying “I Don’t F*** With You!”
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