2/24/2015- “The God-Sized Hole”

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Hey Mikey,

I was raised as a PK (Preacher’s Kid). Sunday through Friday it was church, church, and more church for me. When I went to college I slowed down a lot due to my evolving spiritual beliefs and the rigidness of The Church in general. Still I find myself missing that part of my life and have been meditating a lot. Something is missing in me and honestly I just don’t know what it is. What should I do? Is there something, or some action you advise me to do to stop this ache?

-PK Girl

***PK Girl, Church is usually the first thing most people let go of when they grow up and get out on their own. It’s almost like a grown up form of defiance. However, it does not have to be. There are millions of churches, and I am sure you can find one that fits your “evolving spiritual needs.” Still, it sounds like you are looking for more than a church home to quell the aches of the void within yourself. Trust me when I tell you that what you have is not some empty, bottomless void. It is instead a “God-sized hole,” and you’re trying to fill it with anything but God. Church may be the most common way people find their connection to God; but you should know the Church is within you, and God is everywhere! Reaffirm your bond with Him and all will fall into the place as it should be. Here’s the door sister, walk through it…

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2/24/2015- “Tweet-able”

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Hey Mikey,

So I definitely know I made a mistake with my girlfriend’s friend. She posted a bikini pic online and I sort of commented “#Fuckable” on it! She immediately deleted the comment and DM’d me cusssing me out. I apologized to her and convinced her not to tell my girl–or so I thought. I got home and my lady was moving out. She said me tweeting her that is a form of cheating. I feel she is overreacting! Does that comment count as cheating? I mean the picture was retweet worthy and I kind of did, LOL!

-Captain Blue

***Captain Blue, your girlfriend is one of the smartest women on the planet! She knows when to get the hell on. What you’ve done isn’t cheating; but it is ignorant, inappropriate, reckless, insensitive, deplorable, heinous, immature, and oh yeah–PLAIN OUT STUPID! Did you really think the proverbial shit wouldn’t hit the fan when you hit on your girlfriend’s friend? “Women talk…women talk..;”  no one ever taught you this? If this situation were reversed we definitely would not be having this conversation. APOLOGIZE, APOLOGIZE, APOLOGIZE! For future reference, your girl’s friends aren’t tweet-able let alone “#Fuckable.” Sir, grow up!

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2/16/17- “Ms. Lyon’s Streets”

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Hey Mikey,

My Valentine’s day turned out to almost be deadly! I have been dating this guy for about 2 months, and I really like him, but I no longer feel it is safe for me to date him. Over the weekend he and I were about to head out for a night on the town and consummate our relationship for the first time when someone pulled up in a red Pinto and fired three shots into his car. Thankfully, neither of us were hurt. I have known for a while now that he is a drug dealer, but he is really sweet and he seems to be everything I want out of a guy. Times have been really hard for me recently and he’s helped me out a great deal financially. Plus, I’ve invested 2 months into this relationship I don’t want to feel like my time is wasted. I haven’t slept or eaten in 72 hours. How can I get over this fear?

-Lady Donna

***Lady Donna, what you are experiencing is called a healthy fear. You need to get away from him as soon as possible! Ultimately, no good comes from being a drug dealer’s girl. You are blessed to have walked away with your life. I’m not sure if you watch Empire, but Taraji’s character, Cookie Lyon, said it best; “These streets ain’t for everybody, that’s why they make sidewalks!” Clearly your experiencing some Post Traumatic stress Don’t trade your life for the empty security of drug money. No love is gained in the end!

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2/7/2015- “Her Obliterated Heart”

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Hey Mikey,

So I think I’ve met the right woman for me, but I don’t know if she thinks I’m the right man for her. It’s not that she doesn’t like me or doesn’t find me attractive; she’s just apprehensive and still dealing with emotional baggage from previous relationships. From what I’ve gathered from her, her family, and her friends; all of her exes either cheated on her, cheated on her and beat her, beat her and stole from her, or cheated and stole from her. So I try to be patient and find myself constantly trying to prove I’m a good guy. She rarely allows me to do even the most chivalrous things like open the door, pay for our date, or pull her chair out for her. The other day when we were hanging with friends–sort of like a couples‘ game night–we had to do this trust fall exercise. It was like pulling teeth getting to her to even attempt it. Once she did, she cried and left. I felt bad for putting her in that position and now she wants to see me sparingly. She’s even saying maybe we should slow down because she is not ready for what I’m ready for. Where do I go from here? I’m lost at what my next plan of action should be. I’m going to win her heart!

-Mr. I’m In Love

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***Mr. I’m In Love, the heart is a fragile thing. If you break it too badly it might never recover. Obviously your lady is heartbroken, as a matter of fact she is dealing with an obliterated heart. I like to think of this as a state of crisis within a person when you’re so very broken and emotionally vulnerable. She is wise to pull back from you as another emotional blow at this time could push her towards a breakdown or worst! Just Google “Broken Heart Syndrome,” AKA stress cardiomyopathy! In turn, you should slow down too. If she’s the one, and it is meant to be, then it will work itself out. Your plans of action now should be inaction and reaction. Let her set the pace and tone of your relationship. Trust me when I tell you that traversing the shattered pieces of an obliterated heart is the most difficult task in the universe. Any man who takes on this task will have to be guided by patience, garbed with love, and entrusted by God. Good luck!

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1/26/2014- “The Modern Uncle”

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Hey Mikey,

How are you man? I’m hoping the advice you give will help me make the proper decision when it comes to my niece. My brother, unfortunately, is a dead beat dad. My niece is now three and she has seen him a total of four times. Her mother and I get along pretty well and she has been asking me to spend more time with her,  but I am a little hesitant. First, I think her mother is sweet on me, and second, I don’t want to overstep my bounds and be playing daddy to my niece. At the end of the day my brother’s her father. What should I do? I don’t wanna let my niece down, or upset my brother.

-Pluto

***Pluto, Man up! Your niece needs you! From your own admission, you have told me your brother is a dead beat dad. What is the harm in being a super uncle to combat some of the negativity her father’s absence can cause in her life? Let her mother know you are not interested in anything romantic with her and move forward. Call me “the modern uncle,” but I believe it is the role of aunts and uncles to provide supplementary care and balance in the lives of their nieces and nephews. I have taken a similar outlook in the relationship I have with my own nieces and nephews by becoming what they need me to be. Where your brother is lacking or failing you must rise to the occasion. Having a strong male/father figure in her life can prevent her from having sex too early, teen pregnancy, etc. I am sure if this situation were reversed you would want him to step up for your child. I’m counting you to do the right thing…she is too…

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My niece, Aairess and I

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1/11/2014 – “No Male Zone!”

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Hey Mikey,

I think I have some serious issues when it comes to other guys. I recently celebrated my 25th birthday and as I looked around I realized I have no male friends. When I think about it, anytime I have tried to be friends with another guy something terrible has happened. For instance a guy I was friends with slept with my girlfriend behind my back, another stole money from me after I let him stay with me for a week, and still another came on to me. By the way, I don’t have a problem with gay people. But, I was hoping that he and I could have been good friends. When I offered that, he backed off. Do you have any advice on how I could form meaningful friendships with other men?

-Q2

***Q2, usually this story goes the other way, a girl has a problem making female friends because she doesn’t trust or has had negative interactions with them. My advice for you is to put yourself back out there with other guys. Apparently, you have ran into a few bad apples, but that doesn’t mean the whole bunch of men are jerks! No matter what any guy says, brotherhood is a necessary component of manhood! Take it slow, find a guy who first just wants to be friends; and then presents himself as a friend. Remember your friends should be as diverse as your life experiences, so you definitely need to have at least one other guy in the mix. I’m just keeping it 100! Good luck in your search for bromance!

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1/1/2015- “A Pretty Boy’s Resolution”

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Hey Mikey,

I spent New Years Eve and Day alone. It definitely is not because I did not want to do anything, but because no one invited me out. Everyone I spoke to today admitted they did not invite me out because they thought I would have made plans with someone else. I guess I am too much of a social butterfly and it helps that I am attractive. I use to professionally model. Still, I don’t want this happening every holiday. How do I make myself appear more available to people. I think that’s what my New Year’s resolution will be. This is getting ridiculous Friday nights and holidays are becoming rather dull due to how people perceive me. When did being me become so…lonely?

-Hugh

***Hugh, Happy New Year! I am sorry your New Years was so blue, but thankfully (and hopefully) you have 364 more days to enjoy yourself. Listen, quit with the “pretty boy problems.” Stop placing your good times and experiences in the hands of others. Master your destiny and take command of your time. If you want to go out, GO OUT! Your resolution should not be to change yourself but to be proactive. There is no harm in including yourself in others’ good times, especially when it is a friend or someone you are interested in. By the way, if you ever find a Friday night or holiday to dull you can always party with the girls–Margarita, Tequila, and Corona! 

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