10/2/2014- “The School of Carrie Bradshaw”

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Hey Mikey,

I’m in love, and I’m now in debt! My girlfriend for the past year has made me really happy, but she’s  also spending my money faster than I can make it. She stays at the mall! Saks, Michael Kors, Chanel, Dior, Cartier–you name it and she’s got to have it. I admit I have a healthy love of labels, but usually on a budget. I feel like this is my fault. I slick convinced her to quit her job and said I’d take care of her, but clearly at this pace I cannot. What should I do to get her to slow down? I don’t wanna come off as some scrub in front of my lady Mikey. Fix this!

-Account Zero

***Account Zero, fixing this issue is all on YOU! First off, you shouldn’t be taking on responsibilities you are not 100% sure you can afford. By making her quit her job, and offering to take care of her, you essentially agreed to be her sole provider. Therefore, she should be able to shop, wine, and  dine on your dime! Clearly, your girl is an avid student at “The School of Carrie Bradshaw,” meaning she likes her money where she can see it; hanging in her closet…” The solution to the issue is simple, she has to be put on a budget. Sit down with a financial planner–a professional one– not your boys or father; and see just how much money you can spare for her to actually splurge on. Do not allow her to go over this amount. It is as simple as that. Naturally, she will resist being put on a budget, especially after everything that has transpired. Still, money should not be a make or break issue for your relationship, but is a humongous reason many relationships meet their demise. In the future do not be so impetuous  with your decision making, especially when it involves a woman. My father always says a man needs three things that work: “A gun that works, a dog that works, and a woman that works…” Food for thought, huh? Remember  it is 2014 and a two income household is the norm.

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9/30/2014- “The Size of His Hound Dog”

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Hey Mikey,

I was listening to The Rickey Smiley Morning Show this morning and someone brought up a statement about pets that I found intriguing. Apparently women are suspicious of a guy who has a toy breed dog. When I say toy breed I mean miniatures like Shiatsus and Chihuahuas, the breeds you could definitely tote in a bag. I myself have a papillon.  I am just wondering if this is why I cannot get a date. I work out, i don’t cheat, I am told I am very handsome, and I work in IT, but whenever I invite a woman over she does not seem to “bite” the way I want her to. They will play with my dog and then make some excuse to call it a night. Maybe they think I am gay because I have a small dog, but I have had small dogs since I was an infant. In fact my mother was a breeder. How do I get around this dating barrier and get this women to be into me?

-Love My Papillon

***Love My Papillon, your devotion to your trinket puppy is sweet and admirable. No one has the right to judge your pet decisions. If a woman prioritizes the type of dog you have over whether you’re a great guy who is also monogamous, attractive, and employed then she has the problem–NOT you! Continue to date and be yourself. The right woman is out there. Trust me; she will love you dog and all, without you ever having to justify your love for your precious pooch.

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9/29/2015- “Betrayal By Association”

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Hey Mikey,

I’m a little pissed with a girl I know by association. My ex and I broke up six months ago. He’s verbally abusive and over aggressive and I have had enough! Besides that he did not seem to be the type that  would ever settle down. Recently, I found out he is now engaged to the girl I mentioned earlier that I know through my close friend. The girl and I were never friends but I still feel like all this is grimy, especially since she knows he’s  my ex. Our mutual friend is getting married this weekend, and I know I will have to see the two of them at the wedding. I don’t want to make a scene at my friend’s wedding, but I also don’t want to associate with them. What should I do if, or when, either of them speak to me?

-Girl from White Sands

***Girl from White Sands, your problem really should not be a problem at all. It is nonsense to be angry with a man you decided to end things with; especially when you claim that man verbally abused you. You’re feelings  are only brusied because he moved on– and quickly– to a girl you happen to know. Since you and his fiancée were never friends she does not owe you an explanation. Your friend’s  wedding is not the place to express your distaste with the situation. If either of them speak to you, be the bigger person and speak back. Be polite, the day is not about you; it is about your friend! Put your big girl panties on and act like a lady you want to be. Besides, she will soon find out exactly why you two didn’t work out. People don’t change overnight.

☆Need advice? Simply leave your question in the comments section of this post, or email me at  HeyMikeyATL@gmail.com. Be sure to pick a pen name! Thanks for checking me out! -Mikey ♡

9/9/2014- “Before You Walk Out Of My Life”

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Hey Mikey,

I really like your site. Lots of categories and stuff. My husband in particular likes your “Hot Tips for The Handsome Man” column. He gets manicures and pedicures with me now. Well my marriage is great but my friendship with my friend, “Elaine,” is really strained. We’ve been girls for about five years now and she was even in my wedding.  We recently had a big fallout over this slime of a guy she’s been dating. He makes Nikko from “Love & Hip-Hop Atlanta” look like a saint! To make a long story short,  she has not spoken to me since and now she’s accepted a job offer overseas and will be leaving in a few days. She had a going away party and did not invite me. Should I leave things alone or try to get some reconciliation and closure before she heads off?

-A Hurting Friend

***A Hurting Friend, I am sorry you and your friend are going through this. I see so many women lose great friendships over men.  It’s all so disappointing. Nevertheless, I advise you to reach out and wish her well. You can even tell her you have no hard feelings about the situation.  Anything she decides to do, or not do, after that is solely up to her.  Lose no sleep,  shed no tears! Life moves on and apparently so is your friend.

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8/21/2014- “The Universal Solution”

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Hey Mikey,

Currently I’m overwhelmed with two problems in my life. The first being my mother. She constantly asks me for money, promises to pay me back, then scolds me for being a disrespectful daughter when I have to ask for her to pay me back. To further complicate my life, my boyfriend and I are so on and off repeatedly, that I don’t really know where we stand anymore. He says he loves me and I do love him too but I don’t think I wanna try anymore. Every time he asks for another chance I just wind up taking him back. What should I do to move past all this? I don’t wanna alienate my mother or force my boyfriend out of my life.

-Feeling Powerless

***Feeling Powerless, you alone are the most powerful person in this situation.  You should exercise that aforementioned power with the simple use of the word, “No.” That’s right there’s no book or law or rule that says you have to give your mother money or keep taking your boyfriend back.  The Universal Solution to pain is on the edge of your tongue just waiting to be spoken and fix your issues! Remember our problems end and begin with us.

☆Need advice? Simply leave your question in the comments section of this post, or email me at  HeyMikeyATL@gmail.com. Be sure to pick a pen name! Thanks for checking me out! -Mikey ♡

7/30/2014- “Woman Drama”

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Hey Mikey,

I’m having some issues with my new girlfriend and I’m not sure what do about them. I have been trying to be friends with my ex girlfriend, and I even introduced her to my new girlfriend. Surprisingly, they hit it off and actually became good friends. I figured I had nothing to worry about until me and my new girl got into an argument. She brought up some stuff from my old relationship to back up fears she has about us being together. My ex claims that she hasn’t said anything to her incriminating about me, but I just don’t know because she has a history of meddling in other people’s business. I did also catch my new girlfriend reading my journal, maybe she found out from there. I doubt that my ex girlfriend would say something nasty about me, due to her deeply spiritual nature. What should I do to patch up things between me and my new girl? I do want us to work out.

-Woman Drama

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7/26/2014- “How To Deal (Thank You Frankie J)”

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Hey Mikey,

I have to move to New York for a big opportunity. The problem is my girl just got into a really good pre-med program at Emory. Being a doctor is her dream and I can’t ask her to come with me. I certainly don’t wanna stay though and not fulfill my dreams. What should I do because I feel like she’s the one and I don’t want to break up? Still, I know from past conversations neither of us are good at long distance anything.  Please help,  I’m really stressed and pressed by this.

-Dream Chaser

***Dream Chaser, this is one of those double edged situations where you’re hurt and benefitted at the same time.  Honestly, you and your girl have to do what is best for you at this time. If you feel like she’s the one,  and she truly is, then everything will work itself out no matter what life and distance may throw at you. Sorry but life’s not some old Burger King motto, you can’t “have it your way.” The fulfillment of any dream will come with some price. Pay it now and avoid regret later. After all regret is the one emotion you can’t do anything about…

☆Need advice? Simply leave your question in the comments section of this post, or email at  HeyMikeyATL@gmail.com. Be sure to pick a pen name! Thanks for checking me out! -Mikey ♡