Queens fire back! Derek J defends the trend of Flamboyant Black Gay Men in the media!

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Derek J (l), TS Madison (c), EJ (r)

The portrayal of Black men in the media has seldom been a positive one. Thus, it is not surprising the portrayal of Blavck Gay men would be just as negative or disturbing. Recently, popular culture has portrayed a slew of gay Black men on television, however, they are not quite what you would call masculine or normal. From shows like Bravo’s “Fashion Queens” and “The Real Housewives of Atlanta,” to E’s! “Rich Kids of Beverly Hills” the portrayal of Black men is nothing short of flamboyant and almost drag queenish. One has to wonder where is the Black Gay spectrum? You can look on almost any network and find all types of white gay men from the drag queens and transexuals to closeted athletes. With the noteworthy exception of Michael Sam, this has not been the case. One New Yorker, who also happens to be Black and gay, finds himself disappointed that he cannot see himself on television. “…not all Black gay men wear heels or make up or interested in fashion…some of us just so happen to be gay and we still carry ourselves as men…” These are the words of Trent Britain Jeter, whose now infamous Facebook post sparked a war of words and opened dialogue about the portrayal of Black Gay men in media.

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Trent Britain Jeter

Trent’s post managed to find its way through the grapevine to celebrity stylist and fashion commentator, Derek J. Needless to say he was not happy and responded with the following statement via Instagram:

“Do this post was brought to my attention by@thefabdarylj and the points made in this post are valid and well understood, but it amazes me when people pick and choose what they want to support and stand for. You don’t want to support a feminine gay man in media because you feel that it’s not a good representation of the black gay community. But you will choose to support a woman that has raped the black gay culture of their lingo, fashion sense and beauty creativity. Let me even take it a step further you choose to support the rapper that doesn’t even see your lifestyle and a good representation of the black community as a whole. Before I was on tv I was and still a gay black business owner with a successful salon, that mentors black gay youth and gives back to the community. So with all that said I want to challenge the “masculine” black man that doesn’t like the way that gay black men are being represented in media to stand up and do something about it……. Ooooooo I forgot you didn’t want anyone to know you where gay.”

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All Hail The Queen! Renee Lawless dishes on her Past, Life, & “The Haves & The Have Nots!”

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Tyler Perry knew he had a hit when “The Haves and The Have Nots,” (THAHN) debuted on OWN in 2013. This phenomenal show has garnered record setting ratings, been the subject of much “tea,” and introduced a diverse and stellar cast of actors to the world at large. Each of the cast members portray different, yet realistic characters that are so “in your face,” that you cannot help but love them. However, when it comes to pain and power, one character in particular comes to the forefront–Katheryn Cryer. On THAHN, she is the powerful wife of Jim Cryer, mother to Wyatt and Amanda, and worth fifty million dollars. She loves her family, but keeps them at a distance, because she knows she cannot truly trust any of them. Her poised and cold demeanor, however, hides a woman in pain who is fighting to keep her head above water.  With all these bold and powerful attributes, you just know the real woman portraying her has to be equally as outstanding. You would be right! Renee Lawless is a force to be reckoned with. From the stage to Silver Screen, she has sung, acted, and won her way into our hearts.

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4/22/14- “Reliving Teenage Dreams”

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Hey Mikey,

I’m really upset with my ex. We seemingly rekindled our high school relationship when we met up after our ten year reunion.  We even had sex. He stays out of state so I didn’t expect to see him that often, but even when he is in town he doesn’t come to see me saying that he is busy with work. Then I will look on Instagram or Facebook and see him hanging with his friends. I’m trying not to be one of those clingy girls, but we haven’t seen each other since we had sex. I want to know where this relationship is going. Do you have any pointers on what I should talk to him about when we Skype each other tonight?

-Marigold

***Marigold, to be honest this doesn’t sound like you rekindled anything worthwhile nor does this sound like relationship to me. You haven’t seen him since you hooked up at your high school reunion and even when he comes in town he doesn’t make time for you? It seems like you’re still stuck on teenage dreams, and it sounds like you were a booty call to me. Honestly, you should let this go. If someone wants to be with you they will make time for you.  The busy excuse is not acceptable in 2014. Obviously, as you can see, he has made time for his friends and then has the audacity to post it all over a social media. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again, until people get this through there skulls: “Treat An ex, like an ex!” Move on!

☆Need advice? Simply leave your question in the comments section of this post. Be sure to pick a code name! Thanks for checking me out! -Mikey♡