8/22/15- “The Maxwell (@_MAXWELL_) Wedding Compromise”

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Hey Mikey,

How are you? I really love the advice you give to people. Keep up the good work. Well now it’s my turn. I’m getting married in two weeks and I have one big problem left to tackle–music. My hubby to be and I can’t agree on what to play. I’m pretty eclectic with my tastes in music, but he listens to Maxwell ninety-five percent of the time. I’m not a big Maxwell fan at all. My fiance keeps firing back that he let me do everything I want with the wedding–the cake, the seating chart, the registry, my dress…I explained to him the bride is suppose to have say so over all of that, but he doesn’t get it. We can throw a few Maxwell songs in, even do our first dance to one of them, but not the entire wedding. What do you think?


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***Anti-Groomzilla, it sounds to me like your being a Bridezilla! Marriage is all about compromise, so you might as well begin now. Contrary to popular belief, the wedding belongs to the bride AND groom. If all he is asking for is control on the music then you should give into that. Besides, have you listened to Maxwell? Most of his songs are extremely wedding friendly. I recommend This Woman’s Worth when you walk down the aisle and Whenever, Wherever, Whatever for your first dance. Remember the most important thing about a wedding is not the gifts, music, or even the guests; it’s two people uniting as one for the rest of their lives. Congratulations darling!

☆Need advice? Simply leave your question in the comments section of this post, or email me at HeyMikeyATL@gmail.com. Be sure to pick a pen name! Thanks for checking me out! -Mikey ♡

7/29/2015- “Love Me Like You Do”


Hey Mikey,

I’m caught in a serious dilemma. I recently reunited with my college sweetheart. As a matter of fact, the day we reunited we made love in the backseat of her SUV. It was like old times. She told me after the fact she is in an open marriage. She has her flings and her husband has his. She wants to leave him, but says he makes too much money and she is not willing to downgrade her lifestyle. We have been at this for a year now and honestly I’m tired of being the side dude, even if it is no secret. I want her to be my wife, she is the one. I think I am ready to give her an ultimatum. What do you think she will say? I really just want her to keep loving me the way she does…


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***Problematic, giving her an ultimatum is not necessary. She has already told you where you two stand. Her marriage may be at the bottom, you come in at number two, but the love of her life is the money fueling her lifestyle. Unless you can match that dollar for dollar you are so out of luck! It is time to face the music, cry yourself a river, and give it one last goodbye because she is not the one. If she was she would not be someone else’s wife. Yes wife! Not side chick, girlfriend, or jump off! Her label comes with some serious legal perks and spiritual responsibilities. Swerve back into your lane! If you cannot or will not maintain it then it is time you get off the road! Save that proposal and bent knee for a SINGLE woman who really will be worth it.

☆Need advice? Simply leave your question in the comments section of this post, or email me at  HeyMikeyATL@gmail.com. Be sure to pick a pen name! Thanks for checking me out! -Mikey ♡

7/2/2015- “Confidence Meter–TURN IT UP!”

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Hey Mikey,

I really love your advice column and I figure you can help me out with something. I’ve started to date this guy in the last week. He is very intelligent, kind, has great communication, but he lacks confidence. A few years back he was obese and his dating life was virtually nonexistent. Even though he has lost weight and looks great can’t see it, and wants to lose more weight. I tried to get him to have a meal with me later in the evening and he declined because he says it wouldn’t help his wait loss–he also would barely drink with me. I’m not the most fit guy myself, but I like to have fun and be able to say what I want to say without having to worry about hurting someone’s feelings. His low confidence worries me. I’m considering no longer dating him and advising him to work on himself. Should I?

-Actively Searching for BAE

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6/20/2015- “All’s Fair In Love, War, & Business!”


Hey Mikey,

I am going through a grueling divorce right now. My soon to be ex-husband and I have started a chain of clothing stores in the Northeast that has really taken off and is currently worth millions. It seems money has gone to his head in recent years and he has become neglectful of me.Maybe it is because he came from nothing and is nothing! I am tired of his disrespect as well, but I am not tired enough to relinquish all my rights to the company. He wants to buy me out, but I will not have it. It was my money that fueled it even though he grew it into what it is. It seems like he is unstoppable in his pursuits to get me out of the picture, and I refuse to be moved. My friend said you gave her some good advice about her marriage. Care to help?

-Over His BS


***Over His BS, I am sorry to hear about your divorce, but these things do happen. In this scenario you should play it smart. From your own admission he is unstoppable, and you are immovable. What happens when the Immovable Object meets the Unstoppable Force? They Surrender! Meaning both of you have to reach a compromise, not obliterate the other. Neither of you will win that way and your hard work will be in the sewers of New York City.

Treat the business like a baby, something you both created and are connected to for the rest of your lives. From what I have read about your company, I would say you should remain on the board and attain grade A, controlling shares in the company. As far as the daily operations of the business you should leave that to him and limit yourself to the most critical aspects of your empire. Also, take some of that money and invest it elsewhere. There are a ton of entrepreneurs/inventors who just need a good investor to make some mega bucks. Just do your research! Good luck!

☆Need advice? Simply leave your question in the comments section of this post, or email me at  HeyMikeyATL@gmail.com. Be sure to pick a pen name! Thanks for checking me out! -Mikey ♡

5/3/2015- “Ciara (@ciara) Betted Right!”


Hey Mikey,

So…my girl and I broke up six months ago. When I saw her out she acted all nice and sweet to me, but then I see her posting pictures with some dude on IG over the next three weeks. I guess dude has money because she been showing bags he bought her and she been flying to different places with him. He ain’t got me looks wise, but I don’t think his money is legit if you know what I mean. I don’t have any real proof just speculation. I mean who has all that cash at 22? Everyone says it is none of my business, but she and I were like best friends ’til she caught me talking to another girl. I’m really just trying to look out for her. Would I be wrong for doing a background check on the guy she is talking to now?



***Chino, speculation is just a sophisticated why of excusing your assumptions–something you have no right to do when it comes to your ex. She has moved on and so should you. Ghost following and tracking her via Instagram are not a good look! I can tell her kindness to you the last time you two crossed paths ignited hopes of reconciliation and now you want to sabotage her fledgling relationship now that she has found someone who’s financially a step up. Don’t be mad, don’t be sad, don’t do any background checks, don’t be resentful or bitter. Just MOVE ON This is what happens when you break up with someone…they find somebody new–and in the words of Ciara, “…somebody better than you…”

☆Need advice? Simply leave your question in the comments section of this post, or email me at  HeyMikeyATL@gmail.com. Be sure to pick a pen name! Thanks for checking me out! -Mikey ♡

The Haves & The Have Nots- “A Tragic Day”


“The Haves & Have Nots” delivers a fresh crisis Katheryn rushes home to find out what has happened to Amanda. She demands to know what has happened to her daughter. Hanna tells her that Amanda has died and breaks down. The Harringtons try to comfort her while Jeffrey comforts Wyatt. Veronica asks Celine to bring them a glass of water for Katheryn but she refuses, still in shock. Veronica gets it herself, but is annoyed by her son’s interaction with Wyatt. She subversively tries to stop him from comforting him as Melissa looks on. Jeffrey refuses and continues to comfort him. David tries to get Melissa to leave but Veronica demands she stay. Before they can get into it Celine tries to leave the premises, but they police stop her, needing to get her statement. Katheryn demands they let her leave and tells her she is fired. Wyatt verbally attacks his mother admonishing her for turning a blind eye to his father’s shenanigans for years. She slaps him for disrespecting her. Jeffrey takes him into the kitchen to calm down at David’s behest. Veronica sends Melissa with them. The police allow Celine to give her statement outside to keep the peace.


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2/7/2015- “Her Obliterated Heart”


Hey Mikey,

So I think I’ve met the right woman for me, but I don’t know if she thinks I’m the right man for her. It’s not that she doesn’t like me or doesn’t find me attractive; she’s just apprehensive and still dealing with emotional baggage from previous relationships. From what I’ve gathered from her, her family, and her friends; all of her exes either cheated on her, cheated on her and beat her, beat her and stole from her, or cheated and stole from her. So I try to be patient and find myself constantly trying to prove I’m a good guy. She rarely allows me to do even the most chivalrous things like open the door, pay for our date, or pull her chair out for her. The other day when we were hanging with friends–sort of like a couples‘ game night–we had to do this trust fall exercise. It was like pulling teeth getting to her to even attempt it. Once she did, she cried and left. I felt bad for putting her in that position and now she wants to see me sparingly. She’s even saying maybe we should slow down because she is not ready for what I’m ready for. Where do I go from here? I’m lost at what my next plan of action should be. I’m going to win her heart!

-Mr. I’m In Love


***Mr. I’m In Love, the heart is a fragile thing. If you break it too badly it might never recover. Obviously your lady is heartbroken, as a matter of fact she is dealing with an obliterated heart. I like to think of this as a state of crisis within a person when you’re so very broken and emotionally vulnerable. She is wise to pull back from you as another emotional blow at this time could push her towards a breakdown or worst! Just Google “Broken Heart Syndrome,” AKA stress cardiomyopathy! In turn, you should slow down too. If she’s the one, and it is meant to be, then it will work itself out. Your plans of action now should be inaction and reaction. Let her set the pace and tone of your relationship. Trust me when I tell you that traversing the shattered pieces of an obliterated heart is the most difficult task in the universe. Any man who takes on this task will have to be guided by patience, garbed with love, and entrusted by God. Good luck!

☆Need advice? Simply leave your question in the comments section of this post, or email at  HeyMikeyATL@gmail.com. Be sure to pick a pen name! Thanks for checking me out! -Mikey ♡