Taboo to Do: Sex on the First Date?

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When it comes to relationships, there are many things one may deem taboo to do – like asking a guy out on a date, letting the lady foot the bill and one of the oldest in the book; having sex on the first date. But it is now 2015 and I hereby deem all of these things outdated and unrealistic. For instance, there’s this really cute guy you’re crushing on and he flirts with you too. Instead of you asking him out, you wait on him to do it and that day never comes. Why are you waiting on him to make the next move? The same thing with falling into bed with someone.

My personal opinion is this – I believe that after twenty minutes of meeting someone you know whether or not you like them and if you want to have sex with them. You know whether you want to continue on a conversation with them or if you’d like them better with their mouth closed and clothes off. Today I’ve compiled a list of why I think it is perfectly fine to “smash” on the first date.

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Taraji P. Henson (@TherealTaraji) Talks Dating…”Men are not willing to court anymore”!

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Being a successful actress in Hollywood and having the ability to catch millions of viewers attention by the portraying a specific character on TV or the big screen comes very easy for Taraji. Having years of experience under her belt also makes it pretty easy for her to dominate her field of work. All these good qualities should make it very easy to find the right guy who is on the same playing level as you right? Well, this concept is not true for Taraji. She finds it very hard to date because guys do not court anymore. So its safe to say that she is single and her dating life sucks according to her. I find the concept of dating in Hollywood very interesting. You would think dating would come easy for them but apparently it doesn’t. With all the fame, fortune, and credibility, why is so hard for a good woman to find a great guy? Lets explore this topic and discover why some women regardless of their career choice can’t find a good man.

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Kevin Gates (@Kevin_Gates) Keeps Love & Sex in the Family!

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No matter how expensive or how big a family is, it is critical to have family reunions. Why? Because your children need to know ALL of their relatives; everyone from their parents to their distant cousins. If not you just might find yourself in the same situation as rapper, Kevin Gates. Recently, Kevin has been seeing a new woman and he declares she is all of that (and the proverbial “bag of chips”)! In a few recent video posts on Instagram, he announced that people are always telling him he and his girl look like brother and sister. Neither of them ever really paid it any attention until his grandmother met her and confirmed they were indeed related–third cousins!

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12/26/2014- “Blue Pill Christmas”

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Hey Mikey,

So first of all, Merry Christmas brother! I like your site and advice. Keep up the good work! As you know, yesterday was Christmas and for the most part it was good. I was really blessed this year and was able to get my parents, siblings, girlfriend, nieces, and nephews some really nice gifts. Everyone took care of me too–including my girlfriend. Her gift I feel went a little too far though. It was a prescription of Viagra! I opened it in front of my family thinking it was a new hand controller for my X-Box, or that dark Dolce & Gabbana I told her I really like. But no! There it was, and I unwrapped it in front of my entire family. I was visibly upset and embarrassed and I could see in my family’s faces they felt the same way for me. My girlfriend just popped up off the sofa, hugging me saying now we can have some ROCK HARD Fun! I’m like what the f***!? I’m only thirty-seven and we’ve never gone less than thirty to forty-five minutes when we’re having sex. The way I reacted to her was giving her the cold shoulder and silent treatment for the rest of the night. We even got in an argument this morning because she wanted me to take one of those little blue bastards. How can’t she see this isn’t cool? I’m ready to drive her ass back to Mississippi! What should I do? What would you do?

-Embarassed As Sh**

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***Embarassed As Sh** I’d like to wish you a belated Merry Christmas too. I’m sorry you holiday was ruined by this sole inappropriate act. Let me be clear she is absolutely out of line! That is not the type of thing you gift to anyone, especially at a family gathering. What if you had given her something to make her vaginal area moist, or some sex toy in front of her dear old mom and dad? i’m sure the reaction would have been far less fun or funny. What I would do is not important. I do not handle embarrassment well and she would be dropped off at some random MARTA spot on Atlanta’s West Side. Now, as for you, explain the situation to her from your point of view. Let her know the anger, embarrassment, and disappointment you and your family felt when you opened your gift. Go on to explain to her that your sex life is restricted to your bedroom or home and is not to paraded around family and friends, no matter how comfortable you feel around them. Take those “little blue bastards,” as you so affectionately call them and send them to the watery grave in your toilet. I surely hope this will not be a make or break issue for the two of you. If it is, it is her loss! Trust me the water is again your gateway to happy days, it contains plenty of fish who will not need help from a bottle of pills to get off!

☆Need advice? Simply leave your question in the comments section of this post, or email me at HeyMikeyATL@gmail.com. Be sure to pick a pen name! Thanks for checking me out! -Mikey ♡

 

12/4/2014- “Foul on the Foreplay!”

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Hey Mikey!

My new boyfriend and I are ready to begin having sex. We have not gone all the way yet, but I definitely want to. The other night we at least got to third base–but that’s also when I realized he might not know how to get me to homerun and out of the ball park. Simply put his tongue skills are lacking. When I told him about it, he says it’s because he does not like doing that, but he expects me to go down on him. Are you catching my issue? I am really big on foreplay. How do I get him on my team? Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship but it is an important part of a relationship. I would love your input.

-So Worth It

***So Worth It, I feel your dilemma and reciprocation is a must! I think you should emphasize just how important foreplay is to you. Let him know that just as much as he wants you to get him off; you in turn need him to get you on. Sex, my dear, like anything can become better with a few directions as well. Just point him the right direction. I know from experiece, a little direction makes a world of difference ;-). By the way I love the sports references!

☆Need advice? Simply leave your question in the comments section of this post, or email me at HeyMikeyATL@gmail.com. Be sure to pick a pen name! Thanks for checking me out! -Mikey ♡

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10/21/2014- “Escorted Into Love”

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Hey Mikey,

I find myself in a really awkward position. Last year I find myself extremely broken and brokenhearted after a series of failed attempts at dating and relationships. I went on Adam4Adam and hired an escort. We’ll call him “Dre.” After our first encounter he had me hooked! He did things to and explored my body like no other guy ever has. I started paying to see him every week and we’ve gradually become friends. Now I’m beginning to feel like he’s The One even though he says we just have a friendship and working relationship. I feel it’s more. He admitted to doing things with me in and out of bed he doesn’t do with his other clients. Am I wrong in thinking he’s just not giving this a chance?

-Feeling Hopeful

***Feeling Hopeful, unfortunately you are hopelessly pursuing something with someone that most likely is not meant to be. What Dre is doing for you is a service. You are the client and he is the distributor. As a sex worker his whole scheme is to make you feel like you’re  the apple of his eye so you will keep hiring him. Which means he will fix his mouth to say and do what’s necessary. He is doing you a favor by telling you that you are just his client. Keep it at that– if you must. If  love and a relationship are what you crave, then you can never just settle for this. As hard as it is to do you, have to get back out there and try your hand at  love again. FYI, true love has no monetary value, it is indeed priceless…NEVER equate or mistake physical pleasure for love!

☆Need advice? Simply leave your question in the comments section of this post, or email me at  HeyMikeyATL@gmail.com. Be sure to pick a pen name! Thanks for checking me out! -Mikey ♡

10/11/2014- “Her Baby & His Porn Star Dreams”

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Hello,

Mikey I need some advice and quick. I think my son is about to do something  that will ruin his life forever. Last year, he came out and told me he was bisexual and I accept him wholly. Since then, I have seen him date a number of men and women so I assumed his love life was as normal as it could be. Now here’s  where everything gets spooky for me. He’s been unemployed and out of school for six months now. I have no idea how he’s getting money. Whenever I, or another family member, asks him what he plans to do with his life he just tells us he has “trap boy dreams.” I assumed he was joking until his sister accidentally picked up his cell phone thinking it was hers, and found out he has been talking with some guy about possibly doing a sex video. Needless to say I am devastated. My daughter and I want to confront him about  it, but are not sure how to go about doing it. I dont mind having a gay son, but a porn star I just want have!

-Anonymous

***Anonymous, this is a lot to figure out –and honestly I have never had such an inquiry! First off, text conversations are open to interpretation. They lack the amenities of language; i.e. facial expressions, tone, innuendo, etc. To avoid the aforementioned misinterpretation, the path you must take is clear as day–use the straightforward approach. As a mother with an adult son, sit down and RESPECTFULLY  discuss the issue with him; and explain how you came across the information. Be prepared to accept whatever answer he gives you; and equally prepared to standby your decision of not supporting such work if he decides  to pursue  it. Remember there’s nothing wrong with disapproving, but keep your vocalizations to this conversation and move forward thereafter.  Being a strong mother is more than approving or disapproving of your child’s actions.   It means you have to be strong and wise enough to love them through any situation.

☆Need advice? Simply leave your question in the comments section of this post, or email me at  HeyMikeyATL@gmail.com. Be sure to pick a pen name! Thanks for checking me out! -Mikey ♡