It’s hard logging onto social media every day and having the latest ‘beat faced’ celebrity looking back at you. They’re baddies with bodies, brows, highlight and contours for the gawds and followers who literally buy any and everything their name is associated to. And I get it; we live in a time where “Instagram models” and reality stars reign supreme but what about the everyday around the way girl who gets no play? How can she too feel like a superstar?
A couple of months ago, memes circulated social media with the header “In a world full of Kardashians, be…” and the suggestion was often filled in with the names of women thought to be more worthy than a Kardashian such as Princess Diana, Beyonce, Michelle Obama, Lucille Ball, etc. And again, I get it. You want to encourage girls to gain noteriety on a positive level rather than a negative but why must we put down a Kardashian in the proceess? Why can’t we all live our lives, be dope and happy?
The problem with this way of thinking is that as women, we’re not being told to be individuals – instead we’re being asked to emulate who society as a whole sees as defining a “classic woman.” And as women, we’re simply wired differently. No two women are exactly the same no matter who you are. We’re often taught from a young age that playing sports like football or racing cars with our brothers and male friends is not appropriate and as little girls we should instead be dressed in tutus and having tea parties. We’re taught to be ‘sexy’ with not only our physical appearances but with our personalities – but not too sexy where we go overboard with applying lashes and spending hours on our hair and nails. We’re supposed to exude this natural sex appeal from the moment we roll out of bed in the morning.
In media, women are often sexualized as objects and not equals but let me be extremely blunt for a second, that’s complete bull! And as women we cannot stand for it any longer. We cannot allow men and society tell us who to be. It’s 2016! Whether you idolized Audrey Hepburn, Kim Kardashian-West, Jenna Marbles or the girl from down the block – NEVER forget to be yourself. LOVE yourself! Be 100% REAL with yourself.
Trust me, you’re as dope as they come.
Love Mo ❤
Written By: Monique C. Tillman