Who can forget the most popular male R&B group of the 90s?
Michael McCary, is known for his deep bass voice as part of the R&B male group Boyz II Men, which he quit in 2003 because of problems from scoliosis. Recently the former group member sat down for an interview with Iyanla Vanzant this past weekend to discuss the real reason behind him leaving the well known R&B group.
The 44-year-old singer revealed for the first time that he’s battled multiple sclerosis for nearly 20 years, and his diagnosis was the reason for his departure from the R&B collective. However, as McCary tells it, the decision to leave wasn’t his. Rather, he was forced out by the other members and is resentful for the way he was treated to this day.
Doctors told McCary that the nerve damage in his back could potentially leave him paralyzed. McCary claims that after working “300 days out of every year for over 15 years,” the group dumped him when the diagnosis came to light.
“I want to get over the hurt and abandonment that I feel from the group that I’ve been with for so long and gave my life to,” he said. “I want to be able to go in a room with them and not feel like I want to choke them.”
McCary kept his condition a secret for nearly 20 years, which Iyanla believes made dealing with his abandonment issues all the more challenging. Iyanla says that by speaking the truth now, McCary can begin to heal the other part of himself that needs care. “His openness here today shows his willingness to fix his heart,” she says.
Let’s hope that the past issues that he experienced with the former group members can be resolved. It’s been years since the group has been together and maybe this will be the opportunity for McCary to gain the closure he needs to go forward and bury the painful experience.
McCary’s healing (as well the healing of others) continues on Saturday’s “Iyanla: Fix My Life,” airing Nov. 5 at 9 p.m. ET on OWN.