Karen Huger Speaks Out on Being Date Raped at 19 Years Old!
Karen Huger, who is the star of the reality series, ‘The Real Housewives of Potomac’ is speaking publicly for the first time about being date-raped at 19-years-old.
Via Page Six:
“I was raped almost 35 years ago,” Huger revealed to Page Six, and she is now fighting against what she calls an “alarming” suicide rate among sexual assault victims. “The fact that I survived is part of my reality and I’m hoping that message resonates with the viewers,” she said. In what she describes as “a typical date that went totally off the rails,” the mom of two, now 54, isn’t hiding what happened to her, she’s vocalizing it on national television with a purpose.
“I am put in a very wonderful position to show that when adversity comes your way it doesn’t stop you, it can propel you,” she said of her platform as a Bravo fixture. “It is my responsibility to be real. I have no shame and I carry no burden because of what happened.”
However, the name of her attacker is something she chooses not to disclose. “I will never reveal his name, he has passed on,” she explained. “[But] I can say he was a public figure.”
“If he were alive today it might be a different story,” she said. “I’d like to have it out with him. But I forgave him a long time ago, that is why I lead I life I do today, forgiveness is a part of it.” Huger’s story will be told on Sunday night’s “RHOP” episode where Bravo cameras rolled as she received the ambassador award from Promoting Awareness | Victim Empowerment (PAVE), a non-profit organization that works to prevent sexual violence through education. She has worked with the group for three years, and said she “knew she needed to be a part of it” after attending a fundraiser that focused on teaching consent to middle school and high school students.
“For me personally as a survivor, I felt I had the responsibility to do whatever I could do to prevent another child from choosing death to end their suffering,” she explained. “If hearing my story could save one life it is well worth it, and I will do it again and again.”
“I’m humbled for my name to be spoken in the same sentence,” she said “We’re champions of shattering the silence of sexual abuse,” she said, referring to the fact that many sexual assaults — like her own — go unreported.
And the typical drama that comes with the “Housewives” cast was set aside while Huger spoke of the life-changing incident.
“We were having our differences as we normally do but at this moment we stood to honor, to respect and unify and I am eternally grateful,” she said of her “very supportive” cast members: Gizelle Bryant, Ashley Darby, Robyn Dixon, Charisse Jackson-Jordan and this season’s newcomer Monique Samuels. “They opened their wallets and that’s a beautiful thing,” she said.
Huger’s priority as she continues to work with the nonprofit is to promote the notion that victims of sexual assault still have control over their lives and hopes to lead by example.
“I have had a full life now [and] I did it victoriously, that’s the message I want: there are choices we can make – I chose empowerment. It wasn’t easy but I choose to be among the empowered.”
It takes true strength as women to stand up and tell our stories. It’s never an easy task to speak on what remains as a vivid memory in the back of our minds. I am proud of Karen for being another woman among many to include myself, to take a stand on bringing these issues to light. If you never tell your story then other women will not be able to see that you experienced the same situation but overcame it. As a young black female who has been through similar lanes in life, it was an honor to hear her share her story and it is encouraging for young women like me and others to continue to press forward.
Thank You Karen!
Written By: Tanisha D. Davis