5/15/2016- “Mad Day”

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Hey Mikey,

A friend of mine has been going through a lot of stuff lately and I’m really trying to help her get through it. However, when I was trying to get her to open up to me she lashed out at me and said she wasn’t going to tell me shit because she can’t trust me. Three years ago, we had an incident where I got angry with her and used used the “one person rule” and told another one of our friends a secret she entrusted me with. Naturally, there was a big blowout and I apologized, and I thought we moved passed it. When she brought that up I told her that I don’t think we can be friends anymore because friendship is based off of trust. Now I find myself even more worried about her and our other friends are worried about her too; and she isn’t talking to anyone. What should I do? Should I reach out to her? Or just let this friendship go since she doesn’t trust me anymore?

-Exacerbated

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***Exacerbated, Kandi Burruss coined the term best on The Real Housewives of Atlanta when she called it “Mad Day.” That is pretty much when a friend gets angry with you one day and tells your business or secrets to others. Whether you told one person her business, or a thousand people, you were dead wrong! Thus, she is right to be cautious of opening up to you. Trust is like a mirror, when you break it you can piece it back together, but you will always see the cracks. That’s what the trust in your friendship is– a cracked mirror that’s been pieced back together. Foolishly, you find yourself in your feelings when she needs your support more than ever. You need to be the bigger person and reach out to her with two things; a sincere apology and an open ear. FYI, there is no one person rule when it comes to secrets! Keep your damn mouth shut!

☆Need advice? Simply leave your question in the comments section of this post, or email me at  HeyMikeyATL@gmail.com. Be sure to pick a pen name! Thanks for checking me out! -Mikey ♡

Relationship Tips From Longest Lasting Celebrity Couples

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With 40 to 50 percent of marriages ending in divorce (according to apa.org), and an even higher rate for Hollywood marriages, it is no secret that marriage can be tough – especially in the spotlight. There are, however, those exceptional occasions where couples stay together and live happily ever after – Yes, even in Hollywood.

Here are some celebrity couples whose relationships have lasted an exceptional amount of time, and some of the tips that they have to offer on how to have a successful partnership. Get out your notepads!

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Damage Control: How Cleaning My Closet Cleared My Mind

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“Of course you can borrow an outfit for tonight! But, uhh…please excuse my closet, it’s a little messy.” -Me

My closet was a storage room of updated, and outdated clothes. I was the definition of “so many clothes, but nothing to wear.” The closet was no longer my treasure chest of fashion desires. It became a symbol of unhappiness.

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Financially, a shopping spree was not practical. I am a recent graduate from college and my budget was dedicated to paying off my debts… and food.

But, with the help of a few friends and a change of mindset. I was finally on my road to redemption.

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4/14/2016- “To Slay A Snitch!”

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Hey Mikey,

How do I deal with somebody I live with (I’m in a boarding school) who snitches on everybody, who everybody hates, but is sweet dicking the staff and they feed into it. I wanna beat his ass, but that means expulsion. how do I get Mr. Snitch to stop and shut his mouth?

-Sam

***Sam, the only way to beat a snitch is by beating them at their own game. Put your fists away and use your wits because getting kicked out of boarding school is never a good look! This kid is probably snitching to the staff because he too has something to hide–something BIG. He is Olivia Pope-ing the situation, by creating a buffer in case there’s ever a fall out involving him. The staff won’t be so harsh with their snitch, similar to how the police are lenient with their informants. Play it safe, and keep it cool, by seemingly befriending them. Learn what you must and then use it. They say keep your friends close, and your enemies even closer. There in lies your plan, and using his own secrets against him is his ammo. Keep me posted!

☆Need advice? Simply leave your question in the comments section of this post, or email me at  HeyMikeyATL@gmail.com. Be sure to pick a pen name! Thanks for checking me out! -Mikey ♡

4/5/2016- “Bando Bangin'”

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Hey Mikey,

I think I’m ready–ready for sex. I’ve waited longer than all my friends to have sex with for the first time and I think my boyfriend is going to try and make move in that direction on our next date. He told me via text that he found a bando for us to go to that no one uses anymore to spend some time together. I’m a little anxious about the locale, but I feel like its about the act and effort he is putting into things. What are some things we can do to make this more romantic. I don’t want him to feel like I’m not doing my part and bringing something to this momentous event.

-Cassie

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***Cassie…A bando? REALLY!? Yes, I’m judging this situation because it is ludicrous! You should not be losing your virginity in an abandoned house that crackheads and other wanton drug users use for coverage. You only get ONE first time and it should be special. This so-called “effort” your boyfriend is putting in is not enough. A motel at the very least should suffice. Beyond that, I hope you have done your research and are well versed in safe sex and pregnancy prevention. Be careful Cassie and most of all know your worth. There’s no harm in waiting for everything involved in this situation to feel right. Oh, and by the way, you’re bringing all you need to the table–just look in the mirror!

3/23/2016- “Can I Come Over?”

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Hey Mikey,

I am wondering what is my next move with the guy I’m currently dating. We have been dating for two months now and I want to step things up. When we are together we are usually going out somewhere, or with friends, and now I’d prefer a more intimate setting like my home, or his. He will come into my house to pick me up or say goodnight, but he does want to sleep over, let me come over, or have sex.

He says he will let me know when the moment is right and that he wants to be the “aggressive one.” Now I’m not pressed or a slut, but a girl has needs. He and I have a great time together, but a good time just is not enough when I’m craving sex and to be touched. My ex-boyfriend has been hitting me up a lot lately. He is definitely a jerk, especially when compared to my current guy, but his sex was bar none! My current guy and I are not committed to each other yet. Should I dabble with my ex and just continue seeing him. AGAIN, not trying to be a slut!

-Vexed in Chiraq

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***Vexed in Chiraq, there is no need to worry, I will not slut shame you; and that term definitely should not apply to this situation. You’re obviously a woman who knows what you want and when you want it; and there is nothing wrong with that at all. However, other people also have the right to move at their own pace and comfort level. There could be any number of reasons that he does not want to have sex yet; i.e. abstinent, low sex drive, not in the mood, ad infinitum.

Since you two are not committed, and if you are really wanting to have sex, I would suggest SAFELY feeling your needs with someone else.  NOT with your ex, however! He’s your ex for a reason, and he should stay that way. It’s 2016, and it is a woman’s right to choose who and when she has sex. I’d advise you to let this sex buddy be someone you know you will not fall for, and keep things as light and casual as possible. Good luck!

☆Need advice? Simply leave your question in the comments section of this post, or email me at  HeyMikeyATL@gmail.com. Be sure to pick a pen name! Thanks for checking me out! -Mikey ♡

3/8/2016- “His Penis, Her Community Property”

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Hey Mikey,

I am having a serious issue with my girlfriend of three years.  She has totally violated my trust, and I am not sure how we can recover from all of this. Pretty much I went on a business trip to San Diego, and while I was away I asked her to send me some sexy pictures of herself– some new ones. She bought some lingerie and did that; and then asked for some nude pix of me in return. I agreed, that’s my girl, and we sext all the time. I did not think anything of it until my cousin forwarded me those exact  pictures from a gay site; telling me there were pictures of me posted online.

I know I only sent those shots to my girl so I confronted her. She immediately begin to cry, apologize, and revealed she had been forwarding them to her friends–one of them is a flamboyant ass gay dude–bragging about my piece. These pictures have my face in them, and if they reach my corporate office or a client sees them I could be ruined. Is there anyway to erase them off the net? And what should I do with my girl? I’m not homophobic but I don’t want gay dudes drooling over my dick!

-Dicknapped

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***Dicknapped, BREAK UP WITH HER NOW! You cannot build with someone who has no forethought of the consequences of her actions, or the emotional maturity to know this is wrong. Unfortunately, the rule of the internet is once something is out there–it’s out there–and you cannot take it back. All you can do is learn from this and NOT put your face in nude pictures. That is the number one rule of “Sexting 101.” As far as the gay site goes, contact them and let them know your pictures are being used without your permission. Just keep in mind, so that you never go back this woman, that your dick now belongs to the net!

☆Need advice? Simply leave your question in the comments section of this post, or email me at  HeyMikeyATL@gmail.com. Be sure to pick a pen name! Thanks for checking me out! -Mikey ♡