3/23/2016- “Can I Come Over?”

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Hey Mikey,

I am wondering what is my next move with the guy I’m currently dating. We have been dating for two months now and I want to step things up. When we are together we are usually going out somewhere, or with friends, and now I’d prefer a more intimate setting like my home, or his. He will come into my house to pick me up or say goodnight, but he does want to sleep over, let me come over, or have sex.

He says he will let me know when the moment is right and that he wants to be the “aggressive one.” Now I’m not pressed or a slut, but a girl has needs. He and I have a great time together, but a good time just is not enough when I’m craving sex and to be touched. My ex-boyfriend has been hitting me up a lot lately. He is definitely a jerk, especially when compared to my current guy, but his sex was bar none! My current guy and I are not committed to each other yet. Should I dabble with my ex and just continue seeing him. AGAIN, not trying to be a slut!

-Vexed in Chiraq

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***Vexed in Chiraq, there is no need to worry, I will not slut shame you; and that term definitely should not apply to this situation. You’re obviously a woman who knows what you want and when you want it; and there is nothing wrong with that at all. However, other people also have the right to move at their own pace and comfort level. There could be any number of reasons that he does not want to have sex yet; i.e. abstinent, low sex drive, not in the mood, ad infinitum.

Since you two are not committed, and if you are really wanting to have sex, I would suggest SAFELY feeling your needs with someone else.  NOT with your ex, however! He’s your ex for a reason, and he should stay that way. It’s 2016, and it is a woman’s right to choose who and when she has sex. I’d advise you to let this sex buddy be someone you know you will not fall for, and keep things as light and casual as possible. Good luck!

☆Need advice? Simply leave your question in the comments section of this post, or email me at  HeyMikeyATL@gmail.com. Be sure to pick a pen name! Thanks for checking me out! -Mikey ♡

New Trailer for “The Perfect Match” Movie!

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When was the last time we saw a movie that showed love in an unconventional way. The story normally goes ‘guy meets girl, girl perfect woman, and they live happily ever’ but in 2016 we know that’s not how the story goes and the new Queen Latifah executive-produced film “The Perfect Match” shows the new spin on things.

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‘The Perfect Match’ follows Charlie (played by former 106 & Park host Terrence J) who is a bachelor who has convinced himself that relationships are dead even though his sister (played by Paula Patton), who is a therapist, tries to tell him otherwise. His best friends make a bet with him that if he sticks to one woman for one month, he’s bound to fall in love. An unconvinced Charlie takes the bet because he believes that he’s immune to love… until he crosses paths with the beautiful and mysterious Eva (played by model, actress and former singer Cassie Ventura). Charlie is sure that he will win the bet and prove his friends and sister wrong, so he rises to the occasion and takes on the challenge. Turning on his irresistible charm, Charlie coaxes Eva into a casual affair, but soon finds out that Eva has turned the tables on him. Unsure of what to think or how to feel, he finds himself trying to navigate in a foreign territory. Now, Charlie is left questioning whether he may actually want more than just a one-night stand.

The film will have a star-studded cast including the likes of Rob Riley, Brandy, Lauren London, Donald Faison, Robin Givens, Dascha Polanco, French Montana, Draya Michele, and many more.

The Perfect Match debuts in theaters March 11th. Will you be going to see it?

Written By: Monique C. Tillman

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2/14/2016- “Demetria’s 100” (@demimckinney)

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Hey Mikey,

This has turned out to be the worst Valentine’s Day. The guy I thought was going to be my Valentine has completely cancelled on me. We  met two months ago and hit it off really well. He told me he was looking for a relationship, now suddenly today he says he’s changed his mind and us spending Valentine’s Day together would just give me false hope. It’s leap year so I’ve made reservations at a restaurant, and even bought him this Burberry cologne that he really likes. I don’t know what to do, but I feel cheated and stupid–cheated of my time and stupid for falling for him. Now he’s texting me saying we can at least have dinner. What should I do?

-Feeling The Worst

***Feeling The Worst, follow my exact orders. Block, delete, and remove him from your phone and all social media. Your heart is not some play thing for him to put down and pick up. Although it is his prerogative to change his mind, he has handled this situation poorly. He should’ve taken a lyric from Demetria McKinney’s “One Hundred” and kept it real with you (Currently humming the song in my head).  Save yourself some heartache, have a nice dinner by yourself or with a good friend, take that cologne back and get you a refund, and enjoy a new love–self love! Happy Valentine’s Day! 😙

☆Need advice? Simply leave your question in the comments section of this post, or email me at  HeyMikeyATL@gmail.com. Be sure to pick a pen name! Thanks for checking me out! -Mikey ♡

1/23/2016- “The Manly Tramp Stamp”

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Hey Mikey,

It’s time to get tatted again. I have been thinking about what to get tatted and where to get tatted at. Currently I have ink on both my arms, my chest, my back, and my calves. I feel, albeit hesitantly, that I wanna get some ink on my lower back. Yes, a tramp stamp as people call it. I just don’t want it to be “tramp-ish.” My friends say it makes them think a guy is gay and slutty when he has a tat down there. I honestly don’t care about the gay part since I am, but I do want a relationship; and I don’t want to do anything that would deter a guy from wanting to date or get to know me. What do you think Mikey? Side note, I love your Ink My Whole Body posts!

-Inque Plz

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***Inque Plz, first of all stop calling it a tramp stamp. The only reason people think that area is taboo for tattooing is due to what people usually put down there–something highly sexual. I personally have seen everything from stars, to paw prints, to tribal designs all of which imply it is about to go down. Dare to be different, and put something outstanding that still looks good, but does not have a sexual meaning to it. Might I suggest you get an artist to draw something up for you. It should be  something special to you and masculine. Avoid the slanted and pretty things! By the way, doing or not doing something you want to do for yourself just so you can gave a guy is never a good look. If you and he are meant to be it will happen. No tattoo you place anywhere will deter that. Happy inking! 

 

Taboo to Do: Sex on the First Date?

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When it comes to relationships, there are many things one may deem taboo to do – like asking a guy out on a date, letting the lady foot the bill and one of the oldest in the book; having sex on the first date. But it is now 2015 and I hereby deem all of these things outdated and unrealistic. For instance, there’s this really cute guy you’re crushing on and he flirts with you too. Instead of you asking him out, you wait on him to do it and that day never comes. Why are you waiting on him to make the next move? The same thing with falling into bed with someone.

My personal opinion is this – I believe that after twenty minutes of meeting someone you know whether or not you like them and if you want to have sex with them. You know whether you want to continue on a conversation with them or if you’d like them better with their mouth closed and clothes off. Today I’ve compiled a list of why I think it is perfectly fine to “smash” on the first date.

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7/2/2015- “Confidence Meter–TURN IT UP!”

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Hey Mikey,

I really love your advice column and I figure you can help me out with something. I’ve started to date this guy in the last week. He is very intelligent, kind, has great communication, but he lacks confidence. A few years back he was obese and his dating life was virtually nonexistent. Even though he has lost weight and looks great can’t see it, and wants to lose more weight. I tried to get him to have a meal with me later in the evening and he declined because he says it wouldn’t help his wait loss–he also would barely drink with me. I’m not the most fit guy myself, but I like to have fun and be able to say what I want to say without having to worry about hurting someone’s feelings. His low confidence worries me. I’m considering no longer dating him and advising him to work on himself. Should I?

-Actively Searching for BAE

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6/6/2015- “BLU= Boys Like U”

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Hey Mikey,

I feel like my heart is wrenching. I met this guy, we instantly hit it off, started talking and hanging everyday, and I’ve even helped him find a job. When I told him how I felt he told me I’m a handsome guy, but that he was not looking for a boyfriend. Two months later…he has a boyfriend…They even sorta lookalike. Both have great bodies and everything. We are still close, but I’m in pain whenever he’s around and brings him up, when I see them on social media posting, and especially when he asks me for relationship advice. I have voiced hurt to him, and he says that I’m his best friend and really needs my support. I don’t know, every time i look at him I see the guys of my dreams, his boyfriend kinda is too. How do I say to him boys like you remind me that I’m lonely.

-Foolishly Hoped

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